That “one moment”

Taylor Swift just came on the radio with “Mine.” Now, I know everyone has their own tastes in music but bare with me for a moment. I actually really like this song, not just because I love Taylor Swift, but because I believe that every relationship has that one moment you always look back on when times are rough.

Sure, there are a million and one amazing moments in any given relationship, but don’t you find yourself sweetly reminiscing over a slightly faded memory from the beginning of your relationship?

For me, my Addison moment comes before we even started dating. We had become friends through work and mutual friends. One night, he randomly called me after we had been IMing while I was doing homework. He wanted to get ice cream.

It was around 10:30 at night, and being the prude freshmen I was, I was flabbergasted by the idea. My roommate who never got along with me completely encouraged me to get out of the room (probably because she just wanted to get rid of me, but I digress).

I mean, I had a boyfriend. Sure, not one I particularly liked and didn’t have the courage to break up with him (I had tried to before going to college and then later in October because of an issue).

But it was just ice cream. We were just friends. Why not?

So we went out for ice cream and picked up a pint of Ben & Jerry’s. I honestly don’t even remember the flavor. But he pulled out two spoons and suddenly all rosy with embarrassment like he still does today. One spoon happened to be one of those slotted spoons that are used to strain things… green beans. He was very embarrassed but I joked that I’ll take the “holy” spoon…holey…yeah…our whole relationship is based on bad puns.

We shared the ice cream in the gazebo on campus that’s near a creek and just talked. We talked about everything, laughed, and joked. It was probably one of the most carefree times I’ve ever had in my life.

Now Addison and I are busy all the time. We stress about school, work, money, long distance, family, everything. And of course, sometimes we bicker.

But it’s when I think back to that time where we just simply sat and shared ice cream, I know everything’s going to be okay. I know life is more than paying bills or worrying about work. It’s not even about feeling those butterflies or going out on fancy dates with fancy gifts. It’s about just being together. It’s about just simply being.

And I am more than ecstatic to just simply be with Addison.

The voting rut

So we were pretty neck-in-neck with Lindsay and Christopher...until I left earlier this week to go to Baltimore for that conference. Now we’re over 1000 votes behind! Major bummer, but I’m not too disheartened. I have a few tricks up my sleeve. Right now I’m printing off a bazillion pieces of paper, being covered in tape, and standing knee high in dum dum lollipops.

Don’t judge. These sorts of things work. That and lots and lots of prayer.

It’s not the end-all, be-all of competitions. This won’t make or break Addi and my future marriage. But it would certainly help out. And more than that, I like a good race.

So make way other couples. Nikki’s back in town, and she’s passing out lollipops and taking names.

The Long Distance…

Right now I’m writing from a hotel in Baltimore because I’m spending the good part of the week at an international Writing Center conference where I’m presenting at. Addi is back in North Carolina.

It makes me think back to this past year and how we’ve been apart for so long. Below is the youtube video I made for him for our anniversary, which we could not spend together this year. The song is Sara Evan’s “Perfect” because the lyrics really fit how we felt about the situation. I hope you like it.

Part of me didn’t want to go to this conference this weekend. It’s like, after being away from each other for around 8 months just this year alone, why would I voluntarily leave again?

But at this conference, big things are happening. And now I may get a research grant to develop my board game idea for writing center consultation training. A woman I met here already wants to test it out!

This is why Addison has always encouraged me to go away…not in the way it sounds. Last winter I got an offer to go to DC for 14 weeks to intern at a news wire on the Hill. I told him I wouldn’t go if he thought it would hurt our relationship. He told me that he wanted nothing more than for me to go.

It was probably one of the hardest periods in my life. We fought on and off and we both had trouble missing each other for so long. And when I was offered another internship in New York for the summer, at times it seemed unbearable.

But he was always supportive. Even from the beginning. And he still is today.

I know our long distance isn’t half as bad as some people’s. When my cousin’s husband went overseas with the Marines, I was online with her almost every night. But the truth remains the same, long distance for sucks for anyone who has to deal with it.

But when it works, the end result is beautiful. Because that moment when you’re back together in each other’s arms after talking or laughing or fighting or crying via phone and web cam, you know that if you can get through that, you can get through anything.

Addison’s support and our endurance through sporadic long distance throughout our relationship has made me 100 percent confident that he is the man I want beside me for the rest of my life.

Please help us be able to get married. Vote for us to win the Simon G Jewelry “Perfect Proposal” competition.

How we met…

You can’t really say much in the 300 characters allotted in the Simon G. Jewelry “Perfect Proposal” competition section about “Our Story.” So, I made it more about how while together, we’ve been apart for most of our relationship.

But I always kind of thought that how we met was sweet too. So here it is.

My freshman year I somehow got a job at the Plemmons Student Union at Appalachian State University by the grace of God. I’m pretty sure I snagged the last opening before school started. Most of my shifts were game room shifts, and lucky for me, most of my shifts were during a time where the older students who worked at the PSU who come, chill, and shoot pool.

More than once they had to save me when I would fail the cash register and so we all go to talking and we eventually became friends. They especially bonded over the fact that I turned red int he face over anything sexual (I was a very sheltered 18 year-old).

Eventually they’d laugh and be like, “This is awesome! We have a female Addison!”

Never hearing that name before now, I responded, “What is an addison?”

Turns out, Addison was a student who was gone that semester because he had back surgery. I would hear stories about him and people would compare us all the time.

Then, I met him. Someone introduced us, but we really didn’t get to talking until one day when an older friend, Sam, made the joke that the cash register did not like me because I was virgin. They loved teasing me about how I was a sworn virgin to marriage.

Addison happened to walk up at that moment and said, “Don’t feel bad. They tease me about that too.”

I immediately jumped up and gave him a hug and said, “I love you!”

Addison, who I discovered is super shy 99 percent of the time, turned beet red and stood as stiff as a board.

Later I would find out that is when he said he fell in love with me. I, on the other hand, had a boyfriend. In fact, I would still be unavailable for the next couple of months.

But until then, Addison was probably the best guy friend I ever had (and not in the “I’m-only-here-til-you’re-single-sort-of-way.” That’s probably why he still is my best friend today.

And now I’m going to marry my best friend, except we aren’t engaged yet. We’ve been talking about it seriously since early this past spring when I was still in D.C. When Addison said we could enter the Simon G. Jewelry “Perfect Proposal” comeptition to win a $10,000 ring, I was so excited. Honestly, while the ring is pretty, it isn’t about the ring to me. It’s just one less thing to take a burden off my man.

After all, it’s not the ring I want. It’s him.

(Though I must say, Simon G’s sparklies aren’t half bad)

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My addiction to couple costumes

2008

2010

Addison and I have done  a couple costume ever since we started dating. First, I threw it together really quick and he put up with me. The next year he decided that it was his turn to pick so I spent two weeks sewing his dream costumes.

This year was my turn, but unfortunately because life gets in the way, we had little time or money to make costumes as fabulous as the years prior. But we were happy nonetheless.

This year? We were Mrs. Pacman and one of those ghost thingy majigers.

2009

Addison decided to have a cookie monster shirt instead of letting me paint the face on it. He thought it was close enough. Eh, some people kept asking him if he was cookie monster. Me? People thought I was pikachu…someone even thought I was Charlie Brown.

Definitely not as cool as our Zelda and Link costumes last year (that was his pick).

But you know what? It really doesn’t matter. We had fun. If you all do couple’s costumes, feel free to share!

Fierce Competition. New Friends.

So, for those of you who are just now jumping in on the competition, Simon G. Jewelry’s “Perfect Proposal” competition has been going on for like a month and originally had over 300 couples competing.

There has been fierce competition the whole way, and people can really surprise you. Both good and bad.

Our main competition happened to be a lovely couple named Bryan and Kathleen from Michigan who met on eHarmony.

Now, I’m a huge fan of eHarmony. A year and a half ago, Addison and I decided to do an experiment. (we were super bored) and made profiles on eHarmony. Now for those of you who don’t know us, Addison is a computer science major and I’m a journalism. Logical vs. Emotional. Analytical vs. Creative. We filled out our profiles separately and waited for pairings.

For three days, we were each other’s only matches. Crazy, right? But I digress. Back to Kathleen and Bryan.

So I thought it was super fun that they were from Michigan (for those of you don’t know, Appalachian State University and Michigan have an epic history together football-wise).

We seriously were neck-in-neck for three weeks. They’d be ahead, then we’d pull forward. Then they’d get like 300 votes at once and so I’d go out and buy candy to bribe students who had laptops in libraries (pathetic? Maybe. Resourceful? I’d like to think so).

Pretty soon, other couples started dissing both of us. Someone went as far as to claim that Bryan and Kathleen weren’t even together. Now, I’m a journalist and I pride myself on my ability to be able to find anything I want on the Internet. I knew as much as I could about this couple. I knew which blogs promoted them. Not once did I get an inkling that they weren’t together.

This same couple even dissed me saying that I have a lucky job being the Editor-in-Chief of REALITY Check Girl Magazine so I have tons of time to get votes. Dude, I’m a full time student who works 30 hours a week AND runs a magazine. I have no more time than anyone else.

So I set this lady straight, for both of our sakes.

But then all of the sudden competition got ridiculously fierce, and unfortunately our there-from-the-start competitors/friends fell out. I was pretty bummed about it. If anyone deserved to be in the top three, it was Bryan and Kathleen.

To my surprise, I recently got an FB message from Bryan wishing us luck and offering to repost our link for us.

Further proof that this couple was not only legit, but down-right nice people.

Hey, Bryan and Kathleen! I hope your life together is as fabulous as you and you have the ring and wedding you deserve!

Another couple who almost made the top three but fell out within the last three days was Stefan and Tiffanie. I didn’t know too much about them, but they seemed fun and held a good race for about a week and a half. Unfortunately, they were shockingly knocked down to fourth place after another couple pushed Addison and me to number three (before voting went back down to zero).

Stefan FB messaged me too, wishing us luck and offering support. Seriously, Stefan and Tiffanie, you guys are the sweetest. I don’t know what I did to deserve your kindness, but know that it really means the world to me (and Addi too!).

I hope you guys too get the ring and wedding of your dreams! Thanks for being such good competitors and so nice!

I guess this blog post is more of a tribute to these couples. It’s nice to know that in a world where you’re told that people only look out for themselves, truly nice individuals still exist out there. These couples were both the nicest Internet strangers I’ve ever met and both deserved to win.

Here’s to love and to hope! Here’s to being nice for niceness’ sake and actually reaching out to others regardless of whether you know them or not.

Here’s to Bryan & Kathleen. To Stefan & Tiffanie. I hope you have many, many years together.

I totally caught the bouquet

My cousin posted pictures of her wedding today. I was one of her bridesmaids and knew…KNEW…for months that the bouquet would be mine. We even practiced her tossing it. Okay, that’s a lie. We mainly joked about it.

But yes. I totally caught that bouquet. People said it was a scary sight. But Addison caught the garter too (he claims he was framed).

Here’s a pick of me right before the big catch. For those of you who are blind…I’m the desperate looking chick in the front. Okay, I’ll admit. I can be a little intense. But for the aunt who told me I looked like a football player…c’mon? Really? That’s harsh.

The best part? They made me put the garter on Addison instead of the other way around. Kinda wacky, I’ll admit. But I must say, he looked perdy adorable holding that bouquet while I slipped the garter on him.

So fate that we’re getting engaged soon? Most definitely. Now, I know the Simon G. Jewelry Ring doesn’t have to be THE RING, so if we lose, I won’t be too devastated (only a little). But all the signs are piecing together. Right? Right???

A girl can only dream. Especially at 2 a.m. when she should be studying for her communication law exam in the morning.

We made the top three!!!

I couldn’t believe it when I saw it. Addison and I actually made it to the top three finalists for the Simon G. Jewelry “Perfect Proposal” contest online.

The prize is a $10,000 engagement ring and $5,000.

Competition is fierce, so while discussing joke strategies (one included road tripping across America to access every public library computer known to man. Another idea included something with Magic the Gathering…it was Addison’s idea), we thought it would be fun to start a blog about how we’re trying to win. You know… in case we did decide to road trip across America in search of more IP addresses.

I figure when this is all said and done (whether we win that beautiful ring or not), I can transition this into my wedding-planning blog. And after that? The start of our life as newlyweds.

Yes, I’m a writer. No, Addi isn’t freaking out about me writing just about us and our lives on the Internet. In fact, he helped me come up with the name.

We feel like it describes us. We’re a simple couple from a simple town. We come from simple families and simply love each other.

But together, we have big dreams and big plans. We hope that this competition will help us get a jump start in making those dreams a reality.

So, right now there’s no ring. But we’ve talked about it for awhile so whether we win or not, one is coming. But to answer a lot of the questions I’ve been getting from friends: No. We are not currently engaged. Addison wanted to wait until we actually had a ring and a plan. (He also admitted to planning on coming to my home in Florida for New Years to ask my Dad’s permission! EEP!)

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